As for family. Well..... I had family that thought I was just feeling sorry for myself. My own mother milked her own health problems for all they were worth. She is a strong lady and still going strong at 87. But as far as I am concerned she does not believe I am even sick. If I try to tell her how I am feeling she will cut me short and tell me about her symptoms being a lot worse. That she is a lot sicker and she never complains like I do..Really???? Every symptom I have had , hers is always worse. If you can't talk to your own mother , who can you talk to? Yes, I know she loves me in her own way. She is not mean to me....but she is uncaring about my health. She would upset me so much and stress me out so much that I hardly ever see her any more. And guess what I am less stressed and she don't miss me. Sad, but true. I have not seen her in a few years and the most she has done is to tell someone to say hello for her to me. Not "Do you know how my daughter is?" Then there is family taht just made it plain I am not welcome. We use to have Christmas Eve at my moms every year. After she moved to a smaller apartment my half sister had Christmas at her house. A few years later I got sick and was no longer invited. When I would call to ask about bringing something I was told "We are not having the Christmas Eve party any more. " Later I find out there was one, but I was not invited and everybody was not to tell me. 2 of my adult children who live in the same city went. When I asked about it after one of their son's told me about going...their answer was they did not think I would want to go where I was not wanted. Well, they were right there. Having GD was just the excuse that was needed. I miss the family get togethers. But I do not miss the family members that go. My only brothers do not live near so they don't go anyway. The half sister and my mom has let everyone "Know" that I am playing sick and think I am to good for them. Sorry I am getting off track here. Clearly there are other factors going on besides my having GD and TED. Having the disease has just brought out the worse in my family and given an excuse to get me out of the picture. I am not glad I have GD and TED, but it has taught me a very valuable lessen. You will find out who really cares about you and who does not. Who was a fake friend or relative. Funny thing is an EX daughter -in-law has gone out of her way and brings my grandkids 200 miles with her new husband to visit me. She even brought them for Thanksgiving Dinner. Soooo people just so you know there are loving and kind people still around you. They come from the m ost unexpected places...
I was writing on FB today about losing friends and family because I have Graves' Disease and TED. It seems there are quit a few of us that have. I have had friends turn away from me for thinking I was covering up a "Bad" marriage. Some thought I was on drugs or drinking to much. I have mentioned that here before. But, every once in awhile the subject comes up again. And it is a painful subject for many of us. I had many friends when I was younger, but as my job and my volunteer work kept me on the road a lot I only had a few close friends. I had many acquaintances. I guess I did not mind losing them so much as my "Good" friends of many years. Because I had so few close friends I felt the shunning quickly. It seemed they were busy more often. They seemed to be embarrassed to be around me. you know always looking around to see who is watching. Giving me a knowing (?) look when asking me about my marriage, didn't I think maybe I was drinking a bit to much, or maybe I started taking drugs. Was that why I was going to the doctor so much? To get more drugs??? One so called friend even hit up my husband thinking we my break up soon and he may need company. I could not believe it when he told me. My husband confronted her in front of me. He knew she was my friend and did not want to hurt me ...but he was really pissed off that she would even think to do that to me...but worse to think he would do that to me. We had her and a few other friends over for dinner and he told her and everybody there. " My wife has Graves' Disease and is very sick. There is not a problem in my our marriage. I plan to stick by her side and help her beat this." He then pointedly looked at "Jody" and told her he had a sick wife but a healthy marriage and had no intention of leaving me or sleeping with anybody else. He then told her to get out of his house and never come back. Yes, he did embarrass her. But, he had one proud wife. With a husband like that I don't need friends. He has is been my best friend and my husband.
As for family. Well..... I had family that thought I was just feeling sorry for myself. My own mother milked her own health problems for all they were worth. She is a strong lady and still going strong at 87. But as far as I am concerned she does not believe I am even sick. If I try to tell her how I am feeling she will cut me short and tell me about her symptoms being a lot worse. That she is a lot sicker and she never complains like I do..Really???? Every symptom I have had , hers is always worse. If you can't talk to your own mother , who can you talk to? Yes, I know she loves me in her own way. She is not mean to me....but she is uncaring about my health. She would upset me so much and stress me out so much that I hardly ever see her any more. And guess what I am less stressed and she don't miss me. Sad, but true. I have not seen her in a few years and the most she has done is to tell someone to say hello for her to me. Not "Do you know how my daughter is?" Then there is family taht just made it plain I am not welcome. We use to have Christmas Eve at my moms every year. After she moved to a smaller apartment my half sister had Christmas at her house. A few years later I got sick and was no longer invited. When I would call to ask about bringing something I was told "We are not having the Christmas Eve party any more. " Later I find out there was one, but I was not invited and everybody was not to tell me. 2 of my adult children who live in the same city went. When I asked about it after one of their son's told me about going...their answer was they did not think I would want to go where I was not wanted. Well, they were right there. Having GD was just the excuse that was needed. I miss the family get togethers. But I do not miss the family members that go. My only brothers do not live near so they don't go anyway. The half sister and my mom has let everyone "Know" that I am playing sick and think I am to good for them. Sorry I am getting off track here. Clearly there are other factors going on besides my having GD and TED. Having the disease has just brought out the worse in my family and given an excuse to get me out of the picture. I am not glad I have GD and TED, but it has taught me a very valuable lessen. You will find out who really cares about you and who does not. Who was a fake friend or relative. Funny thing is an EX daughter -in-law has gone out of her way and brings my grandkids 200 miles with her new husband to visit me. She even brought them for Thanksgiving Dinner. Soooo people just so you know there are loving and kind people still around you. They come from the m ost unexpected places...
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ElaineI am the person that started the first coffee break. I Have had Graves' Disease for at least 10 years. I also have Thyroid Eye Disease. I give Thyroid Disease Support . My goal in life is to inform the public about Thyroid Disease. Archives
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